this is why.....

....women are stereotyped as insecure and needy.

i went to see the movie "he's just not that into you" on sunday with about ten gorgeous female friends, then had drinks to recap the flick. overall, it was a great movie. the perfect ratio of humor, cynicism, "i've been there" moments, and "awww" moments (but not too many). the beginning is my favorite. a little girl is humorously verbally abused ("you smell", etc) by a little shithead on the playgroud. she cries to her mom, and her mom recites the infamous speech...."honey, he is being mean to you because he likes you". the look on the girl's face is PRICELESS as the narrator states..."and THAT is when the confusion begins".

the wonderful man i am casually dating just got out of a long term relationship. we have hung out maybe four times. he is great. things are going well and we are both comfortable with each other and also with what we have (a casual, not-serious "non-relationship"). there's just one small catch....his ex is slightly creepy. keep in mind i have never met this girl. the first time i wrote on his facebook wall, she immediately wrote three posts on his wall and requested to be my friend. i denied her. the next day i had another request. from her. to be my friend. i denied it. day three....you can guess. i don't want to seem rude, but it just feel like it would be opening a can of worms. regardless of the creepiness, i just want to take her to lunch and have a long chat with her. why are women like this? confidence is sexy ladies! don't waste your time with a guy who is obviously not interested in you. AND don't be totally creepy when they're not....

...so not fair to the normal ones.

i am so happy to be surrounded by the strongest, most interesting and self-sufficient women i have ever met. my friends and i truly love ourselves and don't need another person to validate our existance. i have always been naturally drawn to this peronality type. they are strong for me when i have low moments (as selfless creatures, all women do). they are my illustration of how lucky i am, and they are always a phone call away if i just need a little reminder.

plus if one of my friends was this creepy, i would personally take them through a twelve-step program. that's what friends are for. : )

listen to: Breathe Me by Sia..."ouch I have lost myself again. lost myself and I am nowhere to be found"